Cut down on demands

Having a child with a disability can come with a lot of practical, emotional and financial stress. Here are some ideas to help you cut down on those demands.


As soon as your child is ready to learn a new skill, start teaching them. The more skills they have, the more they can do for themselves, and the less pressure on you. It could be toileting, getting dressed, feeding themselves, or communicating – these are important life skills and decrease the chance of behaviour problems developing. 


Being able to communicate with your child will also make things easier, so teach them to make eye contact and to gesture as soon as possible. If they can’t talk, work on another way to communicate, such as pictures or sign language. Use a consistent method and encourage the whole family to use it with your child. 


Deal with behaviour problems early. Think about what you want your child to stop doing, what you want them to do instead and what they need to learn to say or communicate. You could set up practice sessions to help your child learn new skills, routines or instructions.


You might want to look into financial help. Find out if you are entitled to any government assistance to help with the costs of raising a special needs child.


Planning out each day can help parents feel less overwhelmed. You might even have a daily routine that you can follow, or use a planner or diary to work out family members’ schedules.


And be realistic about what you can do each day, even if it means saying “No” to extra demands. Work out what your priorities are and ask others to help out if you need to.

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