Have realistic expectations

Children aren’t all the same. They’re individuals with their own personalities. Even kids of the same age develop at different rates. And when a child has a disability, parents can feel less certain about what to expect of their child. So it’s important that you, as a parent, don’t expect more – or less – of your child than he or she is capable of doing. 


It’s also important to remember that nobody’s perfect. Not your kids and not you.


If you expect your child will always be polite, happy or cooperative, you will be disappointed. Kids do make mistakes, but most mistakes aren’t intentional. It’s okay to let your child try and fail.


When it comes to teaching your child new skills, think about what they can do already and what they might be ready to learn.


And don’t forget to go easy on yourself, too. You probably want to be the very best parent ever to have children. But that’s not realistic. You are human. You will make mistakes. Don’t get too frustrated or upset. Everyone learns through experience.

Stepping Stones Triple P’s Seven Steps to Positive Parenting

“Have realistic expectations” is one of Stepping Stones Triple P’s seven steps to positive parenting. Find out about the others and how they can make parenting easier. Here are some hot parenting topics to get you thinking about how to have realistic expectations:

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