Are you in one of the common parent traps?

With the pressures that come with being a parent it’s easy to fall into one of the common parenting traps. Here are some of them:

 

The “criticism” trap is when you often battle with your child. You start to criticise them and soon you are threatening and yelling. Arguments like this leave both parent and child feeling angry. If you have these battles a lot, it’s time to try a new way of handling the situation.

 

The “leave them alone” trap is when parents don’t praise or reward their child when they are behaving well. Kids might start misbehaving for attention. Use praise – or choose a reward that works for your child – to encourage behaviours you’d like to see more often.

 

The “for the sake of the children” trap occurs when parents in unhappy marriages don’t address their problems, for the sake of their children.

 

The “perfect parent” trap. There is no such thing as a perfect parent. Trying to be one will only lead to disappointment, anger and guilt.

 

The “martyr” trap is one where parents neglect their own needs. You don’t have to devote all your time to your child. Good parenting only happens when adults look after their own needs, too.

Stepping Stones Triple P’s Seven Steps to Positive Parenting

This hot parenting topic sure is a conversation starter! It relates to Stepping Stones Triple P’s fifth step to positive parenting: “Have realistic expectations.” Read more about the seven steps to positive parenting. Here are more hot parenting topics to get you thinking about whether you have realistic expectations about your child, and your own parenting: